See also: Core Commitments, Key Assumptions & Intentions & Self-Assessment Matrix
George Washington bridge, approach from the New Jersey side.
Daniel Schwen via Wikimedia Commons
“Nonviolent Communication is an awareness discipline masquerading as a communication process.”~ Kit Miller |
| Beneath courtesy of the work of Miki Kashtan |
Approaches to NVC: What “is” NVC?
Below are some ideas people have of what NVC “is”.
(Some may have combinations of these ideas or other ideas.
You might add some of your own…)
| Principle | Related Needs | Strategies |
| NVC as “life in the moment”, play, joy | Joy | Focus on what I want, is it joyful for me |
| NVC as self-empowerment & self-responsibility | Choice and power | Focus on my needs and finding strategies to meet them; mourning unmet needs; making requests of self & others to move towards the life I want |
| NVC as self-empathic, self-compassionate process | Self-connection, self-acceptance, learning to live what is (even unmet needs) | Focus on self-empathy; compassion for myself |
| NVC as a process for authentic connection with oneself and others | Authenticity, vulnerability | Focus on what’s most true for me and share from the heart |
| NVC as a way to embody compassion, connection | Compassion | Focus on responding with empathy |
| NVC as a way to hold everyone’s needs with care | Harmony, peace, integrity | Focusing on both people’s needs |
| NVC as a way to be present to joy and suffering: to see ‘what is’ |
Peace, liberation, joy, understanding |
Focusing on the life of the moment in oneself and the world, transforming only ideas of what ‘should’ be |
| NVC as inner freedom | Choice, growth | Recognizing and acting from true needs instead of impulse, habits, ‘shoulds’ or rebellion |
| NVC as non-attachment to the outcomes of interactions with people | Learning, discovery, joy | Freely offer our needs as gifts and focus on hearing others’ needs as a gift to us |
| NVC as a tool for living in line with my values and being true to myself | Authenticity, integrity, transparency, honesty, care, courage | Choosing actions that honor my values and needs |
Courtesy of BayNVC/Kashtan
7 favourite books: Nonviolent Communication
See additional NVC book reviews here.
One of my favorite NVC books:
An excerpt from above:
Rosenberg via Oren Jay Sofer
For more as to NVC & Social Change Agency:
Politics, Climate & NVC
See also: Spiritual Basis of NVC
Miki’s Writings | The Fearless Heart
The Fool card from the Visconti-Sforza Tarot deck.
(courtesy of Wikimedia Commons)
Four “Mediate One’s Life” contexts:
- Internal. The conflict is within, between aspects of yourself.
- Self-other/interpersonal. The conflict is between you and someone else.
- Informal. You lend your mediation skills to a conflict without being explicitly asked to do so.
- Formal. You mediate a conflict, intentionally, and at the request or with the express agreement of others.
See also: NVC Mediation
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