See also: Core Commitments, Key Assumptions & Intentions & Self-Assessment Matrix
George Washington bridge, approach from the New Jersey side.
Daniel Schwen via Wikimedia Commons
“Nonviolent Communication is an awareness discipline masquerading as a communication process.”
~ Kit Miller
|Beneath courtesy of the work of Miki Kashtan|
Approaches to NVC: What “is” NVC?
Below are some ideas people have of what NVC “is”.
(Some may have combinations of these ideas or other ideas.
You might add some of your own…)
|NVC as “life in the moment”, play, joy||Joy||Focus on what I want, is it joyful for me|
|NVC as self-empowerment & self-responsibility||Choice and power||Focus on my needs and finding strategies to meet them; mourning unmet needs; making requests of self & others to move towards the life I want|
|NVC as self-empathic, self-compassionate process||Self-connection, self-acceptance, learning to live what is (even unmet needs)||Focus on self-empathy; compassion for myself|
|NVC as a process for authentic connection with oneself and others||Authenticity, vulnerability||Focus on what’s most true for me and share from the heart|
|NVC as a way to embody compassion, connection||Compassion||Focus on responding with empathy|
|NVC as a way to hold everyone’s needs with care||Harmony, peace, integrity||Focusing on both people’s needs|
|NVC as a way to be present to joy and suffering: to see ‘what is’||
Peace, liberation, joy, understanding
|Focusing on the life of the moment in oneself and the world, transforming only ideas of what ‘should’ be|
|NVC as inner freedom||Choice, growth||Recognizing and acting from true needs instead of impulse, habits, ‘shoulds’ or rebellion|
|NVC as non-attachment to the outcomes of interactions with people||Learning, discovery, joy||Freely offer our needs as gifts and focus on hearing others’ needs as a gift to us|
|NVC as a tool for living in line with my values and being true to myself||Authenticity, integrity, transparency, honesty, care, courage||Choosing actions that honor my values and needs|
7 favourite books: Nonviolent Communication
See additional NVC book reviews here.
One of my favorite NVC books:
An excerpt from above:
For more as to NVC & Social Change Agency:
Politics, Climate & NVC
See also: Spiritual Basis of NVC
Miki’s Writings | The Fearless Heart
The Fool card from the Visconti-Sforza Tarot deck.
(courtesy of Wikimedia Commons)
Four “Mediate One’s Life” contexts:
- Internal. The conflict is within, between aspects of yourself.
- Self-other/interpersonal. The conflict is between you and someone else.
- Informal. You lend your mediation skills to a conflict without being explicitly asked to do so.
- Formal. You mediate a conflict, intentionally, and at the request or with the express agreement of others.
See also: NVC Mediation