(Sangha formerly known as “street giraffe”)
Street Giraffes is a free NVC telepractice group that gathers periodically on Sunday at 7 pm/ET.
Re: Our tele-practice group’s meeting time/contact-information
- For newcomers, to possibly join our telepractice group, which gathers periodically on Sunday evenings (schedule-permitting — at least monthly), @ 7 pm/ET, 4 pm/PT — please contact us here. (If you could offer a bit as to your background, as an NVC practitioner, that would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.)
- For veterans, you may access our [password protected] conference call line’s meeting wall here. There you can either join by phone (dial-in # & pin) or internet. (All relevant contact information — including technical assistance to access via VoIP, etc. — gets conveyed during initial email.)
For the foreseeable future, we’ll be working with skill-building exercises from Oren Jay Sofer’s book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.
Here’s a sample:
Practice: Choice Points
Excerpt: “To practice, choose someone with whom you feel relatively comfortable. This familiarity makes it easier to learn the tool. During a conversation, notice when you choose to speak. If you find yourself talking without having consciously chosen to do so, try stopping and leaving space for the other person to continue. Notice what it’s like to actively choose to say something rather than doing so automatically. Pay particular attention to any urgency or reluctance to speak or any sensations of internal pressure. Use that pressure as a signal to make a more conscious choice.”
(Just to clarify, our sangha is less of a traditional NVC empathy circle and more of a skill-building laboratory, hopefully towards greater fluency with integrating Nonviolent Communication — however incremental/gradual it may be — both practically and in principle.)
“Over my twelve years of learning, practicing and sharing Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I have noticed some common tendencies in NVC communities. With some degree of trepidation (which I will explain in a moment), I suggest that one of these tendencies is what I playfully refer to as the, “NVC Pain Exchange (NVCPE).”
This is a playful variation of the ‘New York Stock Exchange (NYSE),’ a famous entity for trading and valuing stocks, bonds and other financial products.
The NVC Pain Exchange enables and perpetuates groups of people to get together and recycle and exchange pain with each other, all in the name of compassion…”
It’s not at all necessary to familiarize yourself with the content of each monthly post, prior to attending the call, however if you’d like to peruse the monthly inquiries you can most easily find a cache (of these ‘inquiring giraffe minds’ type prompts) here:
Read the writer/writing that first introduced me to NVC:
(a collection of articles that have informed my own NVC practice)
If you’re new to NVC:
Oren Jay Sofer’s YouTube Channel
A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication with Oren Jay Sofer
with Kit Miller
(Courtesy of NVC Academy)
A sangha is a community of friends practicing the dharma together in order to bring about and to maintain awareness. The essence of a sangha is awareness, understanding, acceptance, harmony and love… (continues)
Vanity Fair: [Referencing Microsoft’s CEO, Satya Nadella] “…He has had his executive team read Nonviolent Communication. (The title speaks for itself.)”
See also: International Intensive Trainings.
More irreverent NVC cartoons: http://anvc.svenhartenstein.de
Free depiction of how to use the “Matrix” (a tool used on our call):
Listen to an audio tour of Self Assessment Matrix – NVC Academy
How to utilize the “iGiraffe” as a heuristic tool:
(Library requires a subscription; Marketplace a fee)
“To be a human being is to regularly be in conflict with oneself and others.” ~ Ike Lasater
‘An NVC practice as dustpan & brush…’
– Kit Miller
Street Giraffes is a free tele-practice group that gathers on the first Sunday of each month for “dialogue lab” experimentation w/ iGiraffe
(towards building street [giraffe] cred) — in the hopes that by cultivating presence we might enhance our conversational versatility.
For those who are ‘street giraffe(s) veterans’ (i.e. have already participated in our Satsang-esque circle), please click on our [password protected] Meeting Wall page here and then enter the correct ‘open-sesame’/password [to gain direct access to the conference call’s ‘wall’ to join the call, whether by 1) VoIP or 2) dial-in # & pin].
A sangha is a community of friends practicing the dharma together in order to bring about and to maintain awareness. The essence of a sangha is awareness, understanding, acceptance, harmony and love. When you do not see these in a community, it is not a true sangha, and you should have the courage to say so. But when you find these elements are present in a community, you know that you have the happiness and fortune of being in a real sangha.
In Matthew 5:13 in the New Testament of the Christian Bible, we find this statement: “Ye are the salt of the earth; but if the salt hath lost its savor, wherewith shall it be salted? It is thenceforth good for nothing but to be cast out and to be trodden underfoot of men.” In this passage, Jesus describes his followers as salt. Food needs salt in order to be tasty. Life needs understanding, compassion and harmony in order to be livable…
Street Giraffes’ Tele-practice posts (minimalist):
& tweets: @streetgiraffes
Pamela’s posts (not so minimalist):
& tweets: @StreetGiraffe