Seeds, Roots, Branches & Fruits of a Nonviolent Ethos

“What is this kind of love? It appears to me that Jesus and Gandhi and those of us following their tradition through the practice of NVC think of love as the full radical acceptance of the humanity of every person, regardless of how unhappy we are with the results of their actions. This love is a commitment to act in ways that uphold that humanity; to care for the well-being of the other person even when we are in opposing positions; even when all that we value is at stake.”  ~Miki Kashtan

Non-Violence by Carl Fredrik Reuterswärd – United Nations, New York, NY, USA

Courtesy of Giorgio Galeotti via Wikimedia Commons

What Is “Nonviolent” about Nonviolent Communication?

 For a summary of Nonviolent Communication, click:  here.

(For more on a ‘heterodox’ approach to nonviolent communication/ethos, scroll to bottom — e.g. Nelson Mandela’s tactical view of Nonviolence)

Philip Yancey on what living out the instructions of Jesus from the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5-7):

“The movie Gandhi contains a fine scene in which Gandhi tries to explain his philosophy to the Presbyterian missionary Charlie Andrews. Walking together in a South African city, the two suddenly find their way blocked by young thugs. The Reverend Andrews takes one look at the menacing gangsters and decides to run for it. Gandhi stops him. “Doesn’t the New Testament say if an enemy strikes you on the right cheek you should offer him the left?” Andrews mumbles that he thought the phrase was used metaphorically. “I’m not so sure,” Gandhi replies. “I suspect he meant you must show courage—be willing to take a blow, several blows, to show you will not strike back nor will you be turned aside. And when you do that it calls on something in human nature, something that makes his hatred decrease and his respect increase. I think Christ grasped that and I have seen it work.”

Sermon on the Mount: The Beatitudes

“Much of what passes as Christianity is a negation of the Sermon on the Mount,” Gandhi said in a famous lecture to the YMCA in Ceylon in 1927.


What Jesus Means to Me by Mahatma Gandhi

Cosimo Rosselli Sermone della Montagna
Cosimo Rosselli via Wikimedia Commons

Gandhi:  “Although I have devoted a large part of my life to the study of religion and to discussion with religious leaders of all faiths, I know very well that I cannot but seem presumptuous in writing about Jesus Christ and trying to explain what he means to me. I do so only because my Christian friends have told me, on more than a few occasions, that for the very reason I am not a Christian and that (I shall quote their words exactly) “I do not accept Christ in the bottom of my heart as the only Son of God,” it is impossible for me to understand the profound significance of his teachings, or to know and interpret the greatest source of spiritual strength that man has ever known.

Although this may or may not be true in my case, I have reasons to believe that it is an erroneous point of view. I believe that such an estimate is incompatible with the message that Jesus Christ gave to the world. For, he was certainly the highest example of one who wished to give everything, asking nothing in return, and not caring what creed might happen to be professed by the recipient. I am sure that if he were living here now among men, he would bless the lives of many who perhaps have never even heard his name, if only their lives embodied the virtues of which he was a living example on earth; the virtues of loving one’s neighbour as oneself and of doing good and charitable works among one’s fellowmen.

What, then, does Jesus mean to me? To me, he was one of the greatest teachers humanity has ever had…” (continues:

See also:  Gandhi and Jesus

“Gandhi resisted evil with as much vigor and power as the violent resister, but he resisted with love instead of hate. True pacifism is not unrealistic submission to evil power. It is rather a courageous confrontation of evil by the power of love.” ~ MLK

usmc-09611Martin Luther King Jr. addresses a crowd from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial where he delivered his famous, “I Have a Dream,” speech during the Aug. 28, 1963, march on Washington, D.C. (Credit: Marines via Wiki)

 Summary of Nonviolence

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. speaking at the Civil Rights March on Washington, Aug. 28, 1963.
(Credit: Army images)

Thankfully, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. provided an answer to this in his own words:

“Gandhi was probably the first person in history to lift the love ethic of Jesus above mere interaction between individuals to a powerful and effective social force on a large scale. The intellectual and moral satisfaction that I failed to gain from the utilitarianism of Bentham and Mill, the revolutionary methods of Marx and Lenin, the social contract theory of Hobbes, the ‘back to nature’ optimism of Rousseau, and the superman philosophy of Nietzsche, I found in the non-violent resistance philosophy of Gandhi.” ~ MLK, “My Pilgrimage to Nonviolence”

Gandhi, Spinning courtesy of Wikimedia Commons

Tribute to Mahatma Gandhi by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. on the Tenth Anniversary of the Anniversary of the Assasination of Mahatma Gandhi:

“Mahatma Gandhi has done more than any other person of history to reveal that social problems can be solved without resorting to primitive methods of vio­lence. In this sense he is more than a saint of India. He belongs – as they said of Abraham Lincoln – to the ages. In our struggle against racial segregation in Mont­gomery, Alabama, I came to see at a very early stage that a synthesis of Gandhi’s method of non-violence and the Christian ethic of love is the best weapon avail­able to Negroes for this struggle for freedom and human dignity. It may well be that the Gandhian approach will bring about a solution to the race problem in America. His spirit is a continual reminder to oppressed people that it is possible to resist evil and yet not resort to violence.  The Gandhian influence in some way still speaks to the conscience of the world as nations grapple with international problems. If we fail, on an international scale, to follow the Gandhian principle of non-violence, we may end up by destroying ourselves through the misuse of our own instruments. The choice is no longer be­tween violence and non-violence. It is now either non-violence or non-existence.  Oppressed people can deal with oppression in three ways. They can accept or acquiesce. Under segregation they can adjust to it. Yet non-co-operation with evil is as much a moral obligation as is co-operation with good. The minute one ac­cepts segregation, one co-operates with it. Oppressed people can, on the other hand, resort to physical violence, a method both whole nations and oppressed peoples have used. But violence merely brings about a temporary victory and not permanent peace. It creates ever new problems. Gandhi has come on the scene of history with still another way. He would resist evil as much as the man who uses violence, but he resists it without external violence or violence of the spirit. That is what Gandhism does. It is a method of the strong. If the only alternative is be­tween cowardice and violence, it is better – as Gandhi said – to use violence, but there is another way.  I myself gained this insight from Gandhi. When I was in theological school, I thought the only way we could solve our problem of segregation was an armed re­volt. I felt that the Christian ethic of love was confined to individual relationships. I could not see how it could work in social conflict. Then I read Gandhi’s ethic of love as revealed in Jesus but raised to a social strategy for social transformation. This lifts love from individual relationships to the place of social transformation. This Gandhi helped us to understand and for this we are grateful a decade after his death.”

“Religion is one of the most important forces in the world. Whether you are a Christian, a Muslim, a Buddhist, a Jew, or a Hindu, religion is a great force, and it can help one have command of one’s own morality, one’s own behavior, and one’s own attitude.”
-Nelson Mandela

Default Re: Streetify

Defined:  “In modern prose and poetry ‘street’ is used to define non-mainstream, a form of anti-establishment. It probably means to disassociate from what is regarded as ‘establishment’.”

On a ‘Heterodox’ approach to a Nonviolent Ethos….

Nonviolent Communication — and that is what this blog is primarily about, communication/dialogue — is often taught by certified trainers who have, at their core, adopted Gandhi & King’s nonviolent ethos as a principle.  I have tremendous regard for the singlemindedness of their focus and do not intend to detract from the conviction this honorable tradition represents.  However, I have found that, speaking for myself only here, I would have likely dropped any apprentice to NVC if not for seeing an interview —  relatively early on in my studies — depicting Nelson Mandela’s alternate path and affiliation with nonviolence as a tactic.  This has afforded me more spaciousness, a broadened repertoire from which to draw upon in my dialogic forays, and helped me stay on what would otherwise have been too slippery a path for my foothold to grip.  I offer said interview referencing Mandela’s notion of nonviolence as a tactic (subordinate to an overarching principle), directly beneath, in case it is of value to anyone else as a practitioner of NVC.  In a sense, this is in keeping with viewing NVC as a strategy, rather than a need (a relatively noncontroversial statement).  My particular take may not be in alignment with what Marshall Rosenberg intended to impart, however he might yet have appreciated the exploration.

(Disclaimer:  Just to underscore, this blog is about dialogue, and does not intend to endorse or condone violence.  Mandela represents, for me, a way of incorporating NVC as a part of my communicative toolbox, as a means rather than an end in itself, in dialogue with another.)

Nelson Mandela, 2000 (5)By Library of the London School of Economics and Political Science (Nelson Mandela, 2000 Uploaded by Fæ) [No restrictions], via Wikimedia Commons

Have a core principle; everything else is tactics. Mandela’s principle was equal rights for all, regardless of race, class or gender.
~  Mandela’s Way

CHARLIE ROSE: The other thing that he had was some sense of what comes across here is the steel that was there.


CHARLIE ROSE: And he often said to you that everything — it wasn’t about principle, it was about tactics.

RICHARD STENGEL: Well, it’s funny, he had — that’s one of the chapters, is to have an overarching principle, and everything else is a tactic. He would say — and I’m going to say it in a plainer way than he would — he said, you have to have one core principle. He had one core principle above everything else, an overarching principle, which is to bring democracy one person, one man, one vote to South Africa, to reverse the history of apartheid, to bring democracy there. Everything else was a tactic. So even, for example, the ANC’s original embrace of non-violence from the Gandhi tradition, he would say “That’sa tactic, that’s not a principle.”

CHARLIE ROSE: So you can violate that.

RICHARD STENGEL: That’ right. And he did. When he became the leader of the ANC’s military wing he violated that, because he felt to achieve his great goal he needed to do that. And that was just a tactic. A lot of us would say, no, that’s a principle. He would say that’s a tactic.

Nelson Mandela’s Fight for Freedom – Best Documentary

Mandela became disenchanted with utilizing pure nonviolence, after fifty years of this approach being tried in South Africa with little to no results…

Via Richard Stengel’s book, Mandela’s Way: Fifteen Lessons on Life, Love, and Courage:

Excerpts from Chapter Six:
Have a Core Principle – Everything Else is Tactics

“Nelson Mandela is a man of principle – exactly one:  Equal rights for all, regardless of race, class, or gender.  Pretty much everything else is a tactic.  I know that seems like an exaggeration – but to a degree very few people suspect, Mandela is a thoroughgoing pragmatist who was willing to compromise, change, adapt, and refine his strategy as long as it got him to the promised land.  Almost any means justified that one noble end…Mandela has been called a prophet, a saint, a hero.  What he is not is a naive idealist.  He is an idealistic pragmatist, even a high-minded one, but at the end of the day, he is about getting things done.  Over and over during the course of our time together, Mandela made a distinction between principles and tactics.  (Or principles and strategy – he used the words tactics and strategy interchangeably.)  This view evolved over his time in prison; the man who first went to jail was not nearly as strategic or tactical as the man who came out…After seeing the government’s consistent use of violence in repressing black protest, Mandela grew impatient with nonviolence.  He felt a though he was carrying a spear to a gunfight.  Finally, in 1961, Mandela journey to Natal to discuss a change of course with Chief Albert Luthuli, who was then the president of the ANC and who had won the Nobel  Peace Prize the year before for leading the nonviolent struggle against apartheid.  Mandela had immense respect for ‘the Chief,’ as he called him,  and I asked Mandela what was Luthuli’s response to the change in strategy.  ‘He of course opposed the decision because he was a man who believed in nonviolence as a principle,’ Mandela recalled.’  ‘Whereas I and others believed in nonviolence as a strategy, which could be changed at any time the conditions demanded it.  So that was the difference between us.’  Many of the Indian members of the ANC were adamant about not abandoning nonviolence.  Mandela recalled that J. N. Singh, the great Indian freedom fighter, fought the change.  ‘J. N. kept on saying, with great eloquence, ‘No, nonviolence has not failed us, we have failed nonviolence.’  And these slogans, you know, can be powerful.’  But for him, the opposition had become a slogan, not a principle.  In his hardheaded way, he had concluded that only a violent guerrilla movement had a chance of toppling apartheid.  ‘It is a question the conditions which prevail, whether you have to use peaceful methods or violent methods.  And that is determined purely by conditions,’ he told me.  Conditions plus principles determined strategy.  Mandela is not and never was a Gandhi, a man whose devotion to nonviolence was a life a principle that if violated would make the victory not worth having.  Yes, Mandela preferred nonviolence – and had a personal revulsion toward violence of any kind – but the policy of nonviolence was undermining the one overarching principle that he could never lose sight of…Once he had achieved his great goal of bringing constitutional democracy to South Africa, he embraced its corollary:  achieving racial harmony.  Everything else was subordinate to those overriding goals. When conditions change you must change your strategy and your mind.  That’s not indecisiveness, that’s pragmatism.”  (See also – Sharing ‘Mandela’s Way’ In Fifteen Lessons : NPR)

The Atlantic Online:
Mandela and the Question of Violence

Stengel’s Mandela obituary:
Nelson Mandela, 1918–2013: Remembering an Icon of Freedom

Mandela roundtable: A reporter, biographer and poet reflect