Courtesy of Marianne Van Dijk
Cup of Empathy


See also: NVC Academy’s Library re: Conflict Resolution & Mediate One’s Life (video cache)

Dr. Yvette Erasmus

See also: Healing & Reconciliation

(Videos courtesy of Marianne Van Dijk – Cup of Empathy/YouTube Channel)

Four “Mediate One’s Life” contexts:

  • Internal. The conflict is within, between aspects of yourself.
  • Self-other/interpersonal. The conflict is between you and someone else.
  • Informal. You lend your mediation skills to a conflict without being explicitly asked to do so.
  • Formal. You mediate a conflict, intentionally, and at the request or with the express agreement of others.

See also: Awareness of Response-abilityMediate One’s Life (resources)

Learn more about NVC Mediation

Yvette Erasmus, PsyD – YouTube



See more as to NVC & the process of resolving conflicts:

 Connected Conversation


Three [Dialogic] Choices


When to Speak and When to Listen – Tricycle: The Buddhist Review

By Oren Jay Sofer



Excerpt: “To practice, choose someone with whom you feel relatively comfortable. This familiarity makes it easier to learn the tool. During a conversation, notice when you choose to speak. If you find yourself talking without having consciously chosen to do so, try stopping and leaving space for the other person to continue. Notice what it’s like to actively choose to say something rather than doing so automatically. Pay particular attention to any urgency or reluctance to speak or any sensations of internal pressure. Use that pressure as a signal to make a more conscious choice.”


More as to NVC & “choice-points” here.


Conflict resolution using NVC

Pathways to Liberation – Self-Assessment Matrix

See also:  Shifting to Needs-Consciousness

Forgiveness Process



What are conversation maps?


For more re: supported conversations:

NVC Mediation &

Enemy Imagery

(Courtesy of Ijon via Wikimedia Commons)

You made me look like a complete fool!

“You made me look like a complete fool!” (part 2)

“I see wanting without attachment as a deep spiritual practice. I am still learning, and will probably continue to learn.” Miki Kashtan via Why Wanting Matters

Miki Kashtan’s essay “Wanting Fully Without Attachment” (in its entirety):  Wanting Fully Without Attachment [PDF]

BayNVC | Conflict Hotline

Conflict Hotline – Jan ’10 (1 of 6), Anger

See, too:  (2) (3) (4) (5) (6)

Dr. Yvette Erasmus – The Four Stages of a Good Conversation

For more as to NVC & Social Change Agency:

Politics & NVC


Tending or Ending a Relationship | The Fearless Heart

“True dialogue can only happen if I enter the conversation willing to be changed by it. If I am unwilling to change, to be affected sufficiently to consider options new to me, on what grounds am I expecting the other person to change?” ~ Miki Kashtan

More about The Little Book of Courageous Living


How do I give critical feedback without sounding mean?

How to Resolve Conflicts & Create Connection w/ NVC

See also:  Jackal/Giraffe Ears & OFNR


See also: Healing & Reconciliation