Next Street Giraffes Sangha
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Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, “I developed NVC as a way to train my attention—to shine the light of consciousness on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking. What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving of the heart.”
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What is street giraffe?
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“Street Giraffe” is a term originally coined by the late Marshall Rosenberg -- the originator of Nonviolent Communication -- to connote a more naturalized, colloquial form of NVC.
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"Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
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About Pamela,
Blogger/Facilitator
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A favorite Audre Lorde quote of mine:
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NVC is a tool, in our toolbox (akin to a paintbrush); how it is expressed, on the canvas of our lived existence, may be as varied as the fruits of each painter's artistic choices & creative risks.
Toolbox – Tools for Call
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e.g.
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Recommended:
Free NVC/MYL App
(as a composting/'posthersal' if/then) -
Preparing for Challenging Conversations [podcast #26]
w/ @DrYvetteErasmus -
Transforming the Pain of Unmet Needs to the Beauty of Needs
(See also: Mourning/Living-Energy of Needs) -
&/or
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Dialogue Prep [worksheet]
for Difficult Conversations Most Viewed Posts/Pages
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Discover how to naturalize NVC here
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A couple of free & convenient ways to explore "Street Giraffe"
(a.k.a. NVC):
1) Q&A/Podcast/YouTube(s) -
&/or
2) NVC / "Mediate Your Life" App -
NVC 1.0
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NVC handout from 1980s
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"From his work with civil rights activists in the '60s, Rosenberg came up with the precise language of Nonviolent Communication, designed to minimize defensive reactions and maximize cooperation." Katy Butler
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New to Nonviolent Communication?
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Take classes at NVC Academy!
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When once asked about why he, Marshall Rosenberg, opted to shift from "dreams" (1.0) to "universal human needs" (2.0) he offered it was quicker, it simply took less time.
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NVC 2.0
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"OFNR" -- Observations, Feelings, Needs & Requests
(elements guiding dialogue towards the consciousness of NVC) -
NVC is not [just] OFNR.
~ Marshall Rosenberg -
NVC 3.0
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Various practitioners of NVC are taking the consciousness in new and creative directions, such as Oren Jay Sofer's focus on a somatic-based mindfulness, Sarah Peyton's neuroscience-oriented resonance, Arnina Kashtan's blending of modalities via her compass, Aya Caspi's infusion of NVC's spirituality within society, Jesse Wiens Chu and Catherine Cadden's zen-informed everyday nonviolence, Miki Kashtan's Convergent Facilitation, Gina Cenciose blend of NVC with IRF & WTR, Roxy Manning's anti-racist conversations insights, Dominic Barter's restorative circles, Yvette Erasmus, PsyD's eclectic approach, and John Kinyon's mediate your life work.
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And that's truly just a sampling of those who are featured on the pages of this blog, with so many more (too innumerable to mention).
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E.g.
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John Kinyon's [free]
MediateYourLifeApp.com's
Conversation Maps -
“We don't rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.” ― Archilochos
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(see also: NVC Academy's free library & CNVC's free resources)
“NVC as a narcotic”
On Nonviolence
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"However impressed we may be with NVC concepts, it is only through practice and application that our lives are transformed." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
More as to “Street Giraffes”
Re: Joining the Call
Dialogue as a Mindfulness Practice
3 Dialogic Choice-Points
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"If I could teach people only one tool for training in presence it would be to pause. The space of one pause can make a world of difference."
p. 45 of Oren Jay Sofer's Say What You Mean -
Excerpt from Oren's NVC primer: When To Speak & When To Listen
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&/or additional articles & practices
Self-Connection & Choice-Points
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"When we are able to include our own needs in the equation fully, alongside, not instead of, others’ needs, we are more likely to experience the possibility of stepping beyond the either/or paradigm, and finding care for everyone." ~ Miki Kashtan
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"Keep in mind that other people’s actions can never ‘make’ you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
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John Kinyon's [free]
MediateYourLifeApp.com:
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Newt Bailey (@nmbailey): “I have a sense that 90% of Nonviolent Communication is about ‘Self-Connection.’ When using this expression, I’m referring to the practice or process that lives at the root of Inbal Kashtan’s Tree of Life diagram…” (continues via BayNVC)
“Wanting Fully Without Attachment” (cornerstone NVC essay)
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Please note Matrix's "request-consciousness":
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"Giraffe is a language of requests;
Jackal is a language of demands."
via Learning to 'speak giraffe' -
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#WatchJackalShow/
Enemy-Imagery -
"There are two things that distinguish truly nonviolent actions from violent actions. First, there is no enemy in the nonviolent point of view. You don’t see an enemy. Your thinking is clearly focused on protecting your needs. Second, your intention is not to make the other side suffer."
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"The longer I live, the more deeply I learn that love — whether we call it friendship or family or romance — is the work of mirroring and magnifying each other’s light. Gentle work. Steadfast work. Life-saving work in those moments when life and shame and sorrow occlude our own light from our view, but there is still a clear-eyed loving person to beam it back. In our best moments, we are that person for another." ~ Maria Popova
On Listening
Self-Responsibility
Prep for Authentic Dialogue
Dialog Flow Chart
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"Anger is a signal that you’re distracted by judgmental or punitive thinking, and that some precious need of yours is being ignored." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
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"When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
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Why "Watching the Jackal Chorus" Matters
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"Interpretations, criticisms, diagnoses, and judgments of others are actually alienated expressions of our unmet needs." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
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"Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you’ll live longer. Hear that they’re in pain. Don’t hear their analysis." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
“iGiraffe” & Dialogue Lab
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Find more NVC Flow Charts:
streetgiraffe.com Taking the “3rd Chair”
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"Postpone result/solution thinking until later; it’s through connection that solutions materialize – empathy before education." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
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and/or Healing & Reconciliation
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"I wouldn’t expect someone who’s been injured to hear my side until they felt that I had fully understood the depth of their pain." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
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"True forgiveness is not about condoning or forgetting; it's about releasing ourselves from the burden of resentment and finding peace within." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
Any inquiries regarding NVC Mediation invited:
NVC Mediation Consultations & Referrals:
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Say It Right - Katy Butler
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This blog/call grew out of a "Naturalizing NVC" class I took with Miki Kashtan through NVC Academy in 2011 during which I made a request of my fellow classmates that we might practice together outside of the call. It was mostly just about my wanting to gain "street giraffe" fluency by way of practice and then also cataloguing the seeds of my learning. As I say here, it's likely been sustained by way of "structured procrastination" and lots of tinkering while multi-tasking. As Peggy Smith once put it, NVC is but one fruit amidst a more plentiful fruit bowl offering of the healing powers of resonant language, which animates the arc of my life's journey and is something I hope to write about eventually. Bottom line, I'm merely a fellow practitioner/traveler yet invite any inquiries that this blog may have sparked for you.
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Pamela, a.k.a. @StreetGiraffe (via Twitter)
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#MediateOnesLife Consults:
More as to #mediateoneslife consults (re: NVC Mediation) via my alternate
blog: streetgiraffe.com/referrals-
MediateYourLifeApp.com Follow Pamela
Archives
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More thoughts as to "street giraffe"
Other NVC Learning Venues
CNVC Practice Groups
Another NVC/Street-Giraffe oriented sangha: Conversations from the Heart
Live Q & A Call w/ Dr. Erasmus –
Podcast (Apple, Audible, etc.)Practice Group Guidebook:
The Ongo Book 2.0:
Everyday NonviolenceCategories
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Street Giraffes Sangha's Toolbox
Feelings/Needs List
Pathways to Liberation: Self-Assessment Matrix
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3 Layers of Empathy
Handy Handouts
On “Beneficial Regret”
Naturalizing NVC
Four Levels of Competency
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One way to contribute to NVC:
NVC School Rusinga: Donate -
(Located in Kenya,
near Lake Victoria) What is Conscious Communication? (a.k.a. Nonviolent Communication or NVC)
The Chopra Center: Conscious Communication is the ability to clearly communicate what you want in life, which directly relates to your emotional well-being. The key principles of conscious communication can help you do just that… (continues)
(See also OFNR: Observation, Feelings, Needs & Requests.)
Speak Peace in a World of Conflict
New to NVC?
“If I had just one book to recommend about interpersonal communication, it would be this one.” ~ Rick Hanson
My Q&A w/ Oren Jay Sofer
Author of Say What You MeanExcerpt from Oren‘s NVC primer:
5 Core Practices for More Meaningful ConversationsLearn NVC:
NVC Academy, CNVC & several of my giraffe teachers
- @DrYvetteErasmus – Free, Weekly Coaching/Q&A, Blog, Podcast & YouTube
- Naturalizing NVC – Miki Kashtan
- Resonant Language – Sarah Peyton
Simone Weil: “Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.”
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- Atlas Shrugs? & The Power of Outrospection
- Improvisational Observation
- Crazy Like a Fox (Method to Jackal Madness)
- On Long Neckin’ & Anticipatory Beneficial Regret
- On Being All Ears
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- Our Corners-n-Edges
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NVC in the News
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Inc mag: The One Book That Pulled Microsoft Back From the Brink: Empathy taught at the top can connect people, foster collaboration, inspire creativity, and, yes, even save a failing business.
Climate Crisis
“3rd Chair” Conversations
Spiritual Basis of NVC
Journaling (Prompts)
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"As NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism. We come to perceive ourselves and others, as well as our intentions and relationships, in a new light. Resistance, defensiveness, and violent reactions are minimized." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
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"I would like us to create peace at three levels and have each of us to know how to do it. First, within ourselves. That is to know how we can be peaceful with ourselves when we’re less than perfect, for example. How we can learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self. If we can’t do that, I’m not too optimistic how we’re going to relate peacefully out in the world. Second, between people. Nonviolent Communication training shows people how to create peace within themselves and at the same time how to create connections with other people that allows compassionate giving to take place naturally. And third, in our social systems. To look out at the structures that we’ve created, the governmental structures and other structures, and to look at whether they support peaceful connections between us and if not, to transform those structures." ~ Marshall Rosenberg
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Category Archives: Climate Crisis & Ecological Breakdown
Forging Shared Reality
Street Giraffes is a Nonviolent Communication resource blog & free, monthly telepractice group that gathers as a kind of NVC sangha, towards cultivating [universal human] needs-consciousness/mindfulness, focused especially on skill-building (e.g. dialogue-lab experimentation with iGiraffe, MediateYourLifeApp, etc.). About Street Giraffes Learn more … Continue reading
Sea of Unspoken Words
What’s Up Next? (Mark calendars for next telepractice group) Sunday, April 1, 2018 ~ Sea of Unspoken Words Christ on the Cross between the Two Thieves Paintings by Peter Paul Rubens A thought-provoking tweet that I came across today… Inquiry: … Continue reading
Discovering Tripwires (“News as a Spiritual Opportunity”)
What’s Up Next? Sunday, October 1, 2017 ~ Discovering Tripwires: News as a Spiritual Opportunity Daniel R. Blume via Wikimedia Commons “History is not a burden on the memory but an illumination of the soul.” Lord Acton Inquiry: How do you … Continue reading
Calibrating the Dream/Nightmare
What’s Up Next? Sunday, September 3, 2017 ~ Re-Calibrating the Dream/Nightmare (read, ‘Houston, we have a problem…’) Martin Luther King Jr. addresses a crowd from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial where he delivered his famous, “I Have a Dream,” … Continue reading
Atlas Shrugs? & The Power of Outrospection
What’s Up Next? August 6, 2017 ~ Atlas Shrugs? The Power of Outrospection Inquiry: How does your awareness of the living-energy of needs factor into your practice of nonviolence more broadly, such as with social change agency (i.e. how might it be utilized … Continue reading
Crazy Like a Fox (Method to Jackal Madness)
What’s Up Next? June 4, 2017 ~ Crazy Like a Fox Ode to Joy, by Beethoven (1824) – Credit: Kokin There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because … Continue reading
On Long Neckin’ & Anticipatory Beneficial Regret
What’s Up Next? May 14, 2017 ~ On Long Neckin’ [Homo Prospectus] & (Anticipatory) Beneficial Regret Steve Garvie – High-rise living “We are misnamed. We call ourselves Homo sapiens, the “wise man,” but that’s more of a boast than a description. … Continue reading
On Being All Ears
What’s Up Next? (Courtesy of Holger Motzkau) April 2017 ~ On Being All Ears (& the Dynamism of Universal Human Needs) Russian figure skater wins gold with program that included audio from 9/11 Vladimir Putin…cites from Russian satire: ‘It’s boring, ladies’ … Continue reading
More on our Learning Curves (Rounding Edges w/ Strengths)
What’s Up Next? March 2017 ~ More on our Learning Curves (Rounding Edges w/ Strengths) (Bookbinding via Simon A. Eugster) Inquiry: What are your strengths and/or (learning/growing) edges? Have you identified which NVC skills, currently under your belt, might buttress those yet beyond … Continue reading
Our Corners-n-Edges
What’s Up Next? February 2017 ~ Our Corners & Edges “We don’t rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.” ~ Archilochos Inquiry: What are your conversational street signs (e.g. OFNR, Red/Green/Yellow)? Rules of the … Continue reading
Reflection & Renewal
What’s Up Next? January 2017 ~ Reflection & Renewal François Barraud – La Tailleuse de Soupe Inquiry: Do you have any New Year’s dialogic intentions? Such as a quality of NVC consciousness that you are drawn to, perhaps wanting to cultivate and more … Continue reading